TA-BUKKAKE!

I was out on a date the other day and the guy said " Ask me anything you want and I'll be 100 % honest and tell you what you want to know." Hmmmm I'm generally curious so when a question comes to mind I usually just ask so I thought, "What could I possibly want to know about that I haven't asked?" and then the bell went off, BING! And my question was " Why do guys wanna cum on girls faces???" The look of sheer and utter shock on this guys face was absolutely priceless! He actually had to walk away to laugh out loud and cum back because the shock hit him so hard. When he was done he finally came back, tears welling up in his eyes and he said "I don't know! I've never done it but I've always wanted to but I'm not sure why! " As sexually experimental as I am, this is one thing I just can't seem to wrap my brain around trying. The funny thing is, a lot of men want to do this to women and a lot of women are absolutely repulsed by the idea. I set out to do some research and find out if I could convince myself to eventually take a cum shot to the face lol.

BUKKAKE: direct translation "act of splashing" from the verb Bukkakeru " to splash with a liquid rudely.

What I was curious about was where did this come from and why? I started looking online and found that there was a lot of specualtion about it's origins.

Apparently from about the 12th to 19th century of Feudal Japan, if a wife was accused of adultery, the punishment was that a group of guys came on her face. The idea being, if you're getting it from someone else then you're going to take it from everyone. The humiliation of it all often caused the woman to commit suicide. This starts to explain why so many women see it as a humiliating act! The act itself came out of punishment, humiliation, trying to put a woman in her place...imagine that fear passed on through generations and we land in today's world where bukkake videos often portray it much like that. When I watched my first ever bukkake video years ago I thought " Omg that poor girl! " All these guys standing around her, calling her names, degrading her, then cumming all over her especially her face, the ultimate sign of degradation! I mean it's her face they're covering in sperm! As if trying to hide her shameful face under a mask of sperm. Today's bukkake videos often have women that look like they enjoy it, want it, revel in it along with the humiliating ones... Not my cup of tea but to each their own! lol

Another speculation was that sometimes they would parade the naked wife through her parents village and the men would dishonour her by cumming all over her face and body. Other times she would would be led to the town center, tied to a post in a kneeling position and the men would cum on her. Sometimes paper screens were used to hide the men so that only the cheating wife would be visible. It was said that sometimes there was so much semen the woman drowned.... Sperm drowning?? Ugh! God that's a terrible way to go! Death by to many cum shots! :-o lol

And last but not least.. sometimes the wife was buried up to her neck in dirt where the guys would gather around for a circle jerk and after cumming all over her face the husband would not only be the last one to cum on her face but sometimes he'd chop off her head. Jesus freaking Christ! What if the first chop doesn't work? Does it look like that dude trying to  hit his golf ball out of a sand dune?? Whack! Whack! Whack!  Man yet another terrible way to go!

Although the punishment was intended for cheating wives, it was noted that some men were forced to undergo the same punishment. Lmao... How many of YOU would let a dude shoot his load on your face???  Ya exactly! Most of you are saying " No fucking way." So guess what? Maybe when you ask some chick to do it, think about why the idea repulses you first and maybe try to understand why she has the same look on her face when you mention it lol.

Why did it get so popular over the years? Back in the day, porn was about threesomes, bj's, anal was just coming about as well and dp ( double penetration). Dudes were trying to get their women to try these things, threesomes, anal etc.. and then their focus shifted because porn shifted. Once again going back to Japan, in the mid to late 80's there was a mandatory censorship of all male and female genitalia, they had to be blurred out. That posed a problem, how could you still create porn without seeing any of the good stuff and stay within the letter of the law? They had to find another way and since cum was not censored and the focus was often the woman's face and body .. Eureka! They  had found a loop hole and Bukkake videos were born. The popularity of this shifted into North America around late 90's and men's dirty little requests of us shifted as well. You guys wanted dirtier, sluttier acts.. just like porn.

So, I was curious, and at first started to ask male friends this question BUT then I thought let me put this out there on a bigger scale. I put up a post on good ol' Craigslist lol. I wanted to get some variety so I posted in Toronto, NYC and Moscow. I have the biggest following from the countries of these cities so I thought, why not?

I got some of the answers that I expected like, dominance, a feeling of control or power, humiliation, porn (monkey see monkey do kinda thing), it's taboo. Then there were some really good answers. Ones where guys put real thought into it but it made sense! Some guys said it was about the act of submitting. The fact that she was willing and with some begging for the guy to cum all over her face. The turn on being 100% submission. I believe it to be a confident submission. This kind of woman doesn't see it as a humiliating act. It's a turn on for her and that turns the guy on.

Porn is interesting because like I said earlier, monkey see monkey do. It's not the sole reason but I do believe the porn industry has a great power over shaping a man's desire, curiousities and fantasies so this reasoning also makes sense. When you guys see things in porn that you've never done before, in some it seems to create this urge to get out and find a woman to do this taboo, naughty thing with ... like a woman after this season's Prada bag, she just has to have it! Lol

  Dominance, control, power, humiliation, submission, degradation all tie in together. This is a complex relationship. The Dom gets a feeling of power and control over this woman as she submits to him. He gets her to do what ever he wants. Many find this a turn off and often wonder "How could you do that to another human being?" Often he's the one that's crucified. In a healthy Dom/sub relationship there's always the secret underlying knowledge that the Dom is never the one in control, the sub is. Nothing goes further than the sub allows. Healthy Dom/sub relationships that include punishment, humiliation, degradation... only happen if the sub agrees or requests. There is always that level of respect so don't be so quick to judge the Dom/sub dynamic. They both get what the need and want out of the relationship. Him, power, control, satisfaction and even affection. Her, to leave her control at the door, to be the object of attention, push her limits, to explore this side of herself freely,  and sometimes affection.The sub submits willingly. She chooses to give over herself to please him, make him happy... because in the end it makes her happy. To be submissive takes more strength than being a Dom.

Some said they thought it came from a more primal instinctual urge to mark territory. One guy put it really well when he said " We have the face of a woman that we are attracted to or are intimate with and we wish to mark it as our territory with cum, placing it where no one else may have done or would normally do and knowing that she carries our seed in a place where many will look but no one will know." I think the answer was well put! We're sneaky little creatures lol. And that IS quite taboo! The idea that this woman walks into her job everyday, sees friends, family, kids and only a few hours ago had a face full of cum. Hehehe. Like a woman walking around with Ben Wa balls.. how many women are walking around getting that kind of pleasure every day and we don't know about it? It's her dirty little secret! SHhhhh! lol

Some said it was a visual thing. Most men seemed to want to do it MORE if the woman was attractive lol. Many men mentioned that when the woman had a more attractive face, the urge to do it was stronger so I think this would also tie in with territory marking. I get the appeal. Hmmm by this logic I must be pretty fucking hot then!! I've had quite a few requests in the past lol. Woohoo! Wait a minute..So... if he doesn't ask, should I be insulted? Lmao  that would be a great scene. Me in bed, just after sex, throwing the guys clothes at him, telling him to get out. The confusion as he tried to figure out WTF?! So he asks, " What happened??" And I yell at him as I push him half way out the door " You think I'm ugly! You didn't ask to cum on my face!"... Priceless lmao.

Interestingly enough, a few men said they either had no interest, didn't understand why other men wanted to or have never asked a woman to do it. Ya, I know some of you are saying Bullshit! Lol.. Maybe some really don't. It's not impossible to believe, we're not all hard wired the same. I do believe some won't admit it to themselves. They might think that by wanting to do this act it might mean they enjoy degrading women when really they love and respect women. It would seem like an oxymoron to this man. How can he degrade and respect her at the same time? By understanding that part of the turn on for her IS the humiliation and she trusts and respects you enough to tell you and want to explore it with you. By giving it to her, you humiliate her on her own terms but you respect her for exploring a taboo with you when others would hide it from you out of fear of being rejected.



That being said... How do you try to help a woman get over it or try to get her to try it. I'm not saying these tips or ideas will work for sure but they might help.

1. Feel out the topic.  Guys, don't just straight up ask her if you can cum on her face Lmao.. so many of  you are saying WHY NOT?? Because of our natural reaction to be repulsed by it and see it as a humiliating act, many women will automatically say no because they think you WANT to humiliate them. That may not be the case though. For a lot of men seeing their cum on a woman's body is a huge turn on for them.  Like you've conquered something.. but you don't know why lol. So talk. Feel her out. If you always cum in a condom, try asking her if you can cum on her. Most women will let you do that. If she's good with that ask if you can try some new places. She'll say "Like what?" Don't just say the face lol. Throw it in with some other areas you actually want to try.. her ass, her breasts, her stomach, the small of her back.

2. Stroke the ego. Many women just want to feel like the most desired woman when she's with you. HELLO! Do any of you pay attention to RomCom (Romantic Comedies) ? Why do you think it's such a thriving industry? They want the guy that's going to be romantic, sacrifice for her ( in the movies it's a job or another woman, or telling off the controlling mother in law lol). You have to make her feel like she's the only person that matters right there at that moment, even one nighters. By doing this, you create security and get rid of  some insecurity. If she thinks you're going to think she's a whore ( and I mean a real whore not dirty talk whore) for letting you cum on her face chances are she's going to take a pass.

3. Explain yourself. Before you have this conversation, think. Women like to know the why and many, not all will want to know why you want to cum on her face. Don't say "I don't know!" Lol.. For every guy that has said this I've never let him do it because if you don't know why why should I let you?? If you can't explain the turn on then it's just me with cum on my face literally for no reason lol. So have a good a reason.

 4. Be the clean up crew. If you get the chance to do it, guys be a gentleman and go get a nice warm wash cloth to help her wipe it off. Heck, if you ask her to lie back while you gently remove it she's more inclined to do it again because it would be an act of kindness after an act of humiliation. Don't have her wandering around half blind trying to find the washroom but bumping into walls lol. And don't throw the wash cloth at her. That's more degrading! Like telling a dog to eat your shit... ugh!


All in all, If you can get her to believe that the act itself is a turn on and not that you want to treat her like shit, your chances will improve immensely.  As for me, did any of this change my mind? Hmmm I can't say I'd do it for sure but I definitely have a better understanding. I think with the right partner one day I will but for now I think I'll keep my face virginity in tact! lol

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Gray areas of Indiscretion with Married Men

 Indiscretion and the married man.... oooooh dicey topic! lol Back in my 20's I thought I knew it all when it came to this topic. It was simple. When you're in relationship whether it's long term, engagement or marriage.. you just don't cheat. Plain and simple. Black and white.. except it's not, and as the years flew by  I begrudgingly and slowly started to notice that there was this small gray area where the lines of black and white met and became blurred and I no longer had a clear answer. It's like watching the TV show Dexter! You KNOW that murder is wrong! But when Dexter kills a Pedophile or a Rapist we're the first ones with poms poms in our hands cheering him on! Wooohooo! We're actually cheering for someone to do the thing we know to be wrong even though we believe it's justice... did you see it?? That little shade of gray right where the black and white meet? Sneeky little sucker! Over the years I've found myself in situations where I've begun to understand why some men end up cheating on their wives. Do I condone it? GOD NO! I can say however, I'm not so quick to judge any more.

For some reason, the only guys that hit on me are guys that have nothing to lose lol. Married men are  attracted to me like bees on honey! lol Not to mention, men with no jobs and men that live at home with their moms.  Why are these guys attracted to me? The men with no jobs and the ones that live at home with mom see strength and confidence... in other words someone to take care of them. a.k.a. Their Momma lol. But married men? They see that too but they see greener grass. Here's a woman that hasn't given up on her figure. Here's a woman that sees me and not just my wallet or all the imperfections.She's not bitching at me! Here's a woman that will give me affection. Here's a woman that WANTS to fuck me. Did you guys know that most times when guys cheat on their wives they're not usually with overly stunning women. They're with normal or average looking women that give them affection. Both physical and emotional, even if it's just for an hour or two. Often men cheat because this is what they crave. That's when my line between black and white started to get blurred. I thought all these guys cheated because they were just straight up assholes. Guys that wanted more than just the cake, they had to have the pie too! Let's face it, some just like a strange new hole to fuck. I hated these guys. I swore up and down I would NEVER get involved with a married guy because karma would bitch slap me across the face and God knows my life is already like a freaking gong show when it comes to men, who the hell needed another episode of Dating Disasters - Crazy wife edition ??? lol.


Soo of course that meant I had to meet....let's call him Jeremy. Jeremy I met through Craigslist as well. I think I had thrown the fishing line out again into the Craigslist pond again for a FWB and came across Jeremy eventually. Jeremy is not my typical kinda guy. He is in great shape.. but he's hairier than i usually like and he smokes. Smoking is a big turn off for me because honestly guys, for a non-smoker it tastes disgusting. Your whole mouth tastes like nicotine not to mention your other body parts. Yup. The OTHER body parts lol... for the slower guys those are your cock and balls lol ;). Even your skin, if we lick it, we can taste the nicotine coming out of your pores. Yuck. Moving along swiftly.. Jeremy and I meet and we get to talking and I find that I really enjoy his personality. He's super intelligent, laughter and conversation comes easy so I ask a typical question when I meet a nice single guy.. " So tell me, why are you still single?" This is a sink or swim question lol. This is your time to spill the beans or desperately try to hide them lol... Remarkably, he spilled! He fessed up to being married and having four kids. Obviously right off the bat the mood changed. This is the point in time where many women get up and leave but not your dear friend the BFW lol. Curiousity and the cat?? Shoot, That's my middle name! lol.. I think it takes balls to admit to a woman you're on a date with that you have kids and a WIFE?? Jesus, that can go so many ways from a drink to the face, a slap in it's place and you standing alone looking like a sorry case lol. My first instinct was to automatically hate this guy and  judge him for being a bad husband and leave... At the same token he could've been like many other assholes and told me everything I wanted to hear, screw me then leave me like most men would do but he didn't. I felt that for that level of respect I at least owed him an unbiased ear.

We talked for a long time, his story was definitely filled with twists and turns from getting pregnant and married in his early 20's to finding out his wife had been sexually assaulted when she was younger (she never got into details about it with him) to they hadn't had sex in over 6 years! 6 years???? Are you kidding me?? I could not imagine not using my God given parts for 6 YEARS!!! This is where the line gets blurred you see? You start thinking ... What would I do if this were me? I'd start looking. As much as I'd hate to admit it, I would! There's only so long you can try with a partner before you start to feel like you're a chore on a checklist! Take out the garbage, check. Do the laundry, check. Fuck my wife/husband... move to Friday nights To DO list lol. Nothing happened right away. We hung out, we chatted, we vented about life, talked about our passions, the usual stuff. One day, one thing led to the next and bada boom bada bing we got naked and jumped in the sack and it was gooooood lol. There's nothing quite like a man that's been denied sex for years. It's like giving a starving man food! You just can't give him enough and you are the best thing ever! I'm only 5'2 and that guy tossed and manhandled me in all sorts of ways.. it was awesome lol! After that, my conscience started to get in the way and I told him we had to stop the sex part because I didn't want some crazy wife or worse yet a broken hearted wife showing up on my doorstep... except the sex was really good and in a couple months he got a call back for a return engagement lol. Listen, I'm of the age now where I gotta get mine and you gotta get yours. Then there's the taboo of it all that makes it just a tiny bit more scary and exciting! The whole thing becomes more of a turn on. Sometimes lines get crossed, this was one of those times and that went on for a few weeks and then something dreadful happened.... he fell in love with me!


That my friends was when it was finally over. When I could see the look in his eyes and the words coming out his mouth... No, no and hell NO! Love was not aloud in this equation! Sex was barely even allowed let alone love. Love is emotional and emotions are messy. Sex is physical, practical, logical and gratifying. Love complicates everything. This is where I become selfish. He's married, it's not my fault if he's in unhappy marriage. It's his responsibility to get out of it. I deserve to have my own partner one day not be the other woman a man loves because he wants to "stay together for the kids". Screw that. That is when they become selfish because they're to afraid to admit it's not the kids they're worried about but themselves. They don't want to be alone but it's much easier to say it's about the kids than to admit that to themselves. Children are resilient, they will survive with separated or divorced parents but often it's the men that fall apart not the women. If anything the women look better most times lol. Shortly after that I stopped seeing him. I had crossed a line into a taboo world and walked boldly through it but returned to the real world and stepped back across the line.

Would I do it again? Hmmmm I don't know. Maybe if the circumstances and situations aligned themselves in the right way, sure. I did however, learn a lot. Until you find yourself wrapped up in the craziness and experience of infidelity, sexual denial,  lack of affection coupled with desire.... no one has the right to judge. Gray areas are foggy and often it's not until we're actually put in the position that we really come to understand or bend our thinking on the topic. Until then we pick a side Black or White.. Gray is for those individuals that are experienced and have had their morals challenged and made honest decisions. I never said they were the right decisions but honest decisions often lack regret and help us gain insight to move forward and grow into wiser individuals.

Thanks for reading and I'll be back soon with my update! :)




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