I was out on a date the other day and the guy said " Ask me anything you want and I'll be 100 % honest and tell you what you want to know." Hmmmm I'm generally curious so when a question comes to mind I usually just ask so I thought, "What could I possibly want to know about that I haven't asked?" and then the bell went off, BING! And my question was " Why do guys wanna cum on girls faces???" The look of sheer and utter shock on this guys face was absolutely priceless! He actually had to walk away to laugh out loud and cum back because the shock hit him so hard. When he was done he finally came back, tears welling up in his eyes and he said "I don't know! I've never done it but I've always wanted to but I'm not sure why! " As sexually experimental as I am, this is one thing I just can't seem to wrap my brain around trying. The funny thing is, a lot of men want to do this to women and a lot of women are absolutely repulsed by the idea. I set out to do some research and find out if I could convince myself to eventually take a cum shot to the face lol.
BUKKAKE: direct translation "act of splashing" from the verb Bukkakeru " to splash with a liquid rudely.
What I was curious about was where did this come from and why? I started looking online and found that there was a lot of specualtion about it's origins.
Apparently from about the 12th to 19th century of Feudal Japan, if a wife was accused of adultery, the punishment was that a group of guys came on her face. The idea being, if you're getting it from someone else then you're going to take it from everyone. The humiliation of it all often caused the woman to commit suicide. This starts to explain why so many women see it as a humiliating act! The act itself came out of punishment, humiliation, trying to put a woman in her place...imagine that fear passed on through generations and we land in today's world where bukkake videos often portray it much like that. When I watched my first ever bukkake video years ago I thought " Omg that poor girl! " All these guys standing around her, calling her names, degrading her, then cumming all over her especially her face, the ultimate sign of degradation! I mean it's her face they're covering in sperm! As if trying to hide her shameful face under a mask of sperm. Today's bukkake videos often have women that look like they enjoy it, want it, revel in it along with the humiliating ones... Not my cup of tea but to each their own! lol
Another speculation was that sometimes they would parade the naked wife through her parents village and the men would dishonour her by cumming all over her face and body. Other times she would would be led to the town center, tied to a post in a kneeling position and the men would cum on her. Sometimes paper screens were used to hide the men so that only the cheating wife would be visible. It was said that sometimes there was so much semen the woman drowned.... Sperm drowning?? Ugh! God that's a terrible way to go! Death by to many cum shots! :-o lol
And last but not least.. sometimes the wife was buried up to her neck in dirt where the guys would gather around for a circle jerk and after cumming all over her face the husband would not only be the last one to cum on her face but sometimes he'd chop off her head. Jesus freaking Christ! What if the first chop doesn't work? Does it look like that dude trying to hit his golf ball out of a sand dune?? Whack! Whack! Whack! Man yet another terrible way to go!
Although the punishment was intended for cheating wives, it was noted that some men were forced to undergo the same punishment. Lmao... How many of YOU would let a dude shoot his load on your face??? Ya exactly! Most of you are saying " No fucking way." So guess what? Maybe when you ask some chick to do it, think about why the idea repulses you first and maybe try to understand why she has the same look on her face when you mention it lol.
Why did it get so popular over the years? Back in the day, porn was about threesomes, bj's, anal was just coming about as well and dp ( double penetration). Dudes were trying to get their women to try these things, threesomes, anal etc.. and then their focus shifted because porn shifted. Once again going back to Japan, in the mid to late 80's there was a mandatory censorship of all male and female genitalia, they had to be blurred out. That posed a problem, how could you still create porn without seeing any of the good stuff and stay within the letter of the law? They had to find another way and since cum was not censored and the focus was often the woman's face and body .. Eureka! They had found a loop hole and Bukkake videos were born. The popularity of this shifted into North America around late 90's and men's dirty little requests of us shifted as well. You guys wanted dirtier, sluttier acts.. just like porn.
So, I was curious, and at first started to ask male friends this question BUT then I thought let me put this out there on a bigger scale. I put up a post on good ol' Craigslist lol. I wanted to get some variety so I posted in Toronto, NYC and Moscow. I have the biggest following from the countries of these cities so I thought, why not?
I got some of the answers that I expected like, dominance, a feeling of control or power, humiliation, porn (monkey see monkey do kinda thing), it's taboo. Then there were some really good answers. Ones where guys put real thought into it but it made sense! Some guys said it was about the act of submitting. The fact that she was willing and with some begging for the guy to cum all over her face. The turn on being 100% submission. I believe it to be a confident submission. This kind of woman doesn't see it as a humiliating act. It's a turn on for her and that turns the guy on.
Porn is interesting because like I said earlier, monkey see monkey do. It's not the sole reason but I do believe the porn industry has a great
power over shaping a man's desire, curiousities and fantasies so this
reasoning also makes sense. When you guys see things in porn that you've never done before, in some it seems to create this urge to get out and find a woman to do this taboo, naughty thing with ... like a woman after this season's Prada bag, she just has to have it! Lol
Dominance, control, power, humiliation, submission, degradation all tie in together. This is a complex relationship. The Dom gets a feeling of power and control over this woman as she submits to him. He gets her to do what ever he wants. Many find this a turn off and often wonder "How could you do that to another human being?" Often he's the one that's crucified. In a healthy Dom/sub relationship there's always the secret underlying knowledge that the Dom is never the one in control, the sub is. Nothing goes further than the sub allows. Healthy Dom/sub relationships that include punishment, humiliation, degradation... only happen if the sub agrees or requests. There is always that level of respect so don't be so quick to judge the Dom/sub dynamic. They both get what the need and want out of the relationship. Him, power, control, satisfaction and even affection. Her, to leave her control at the door, to be the object of attention, push her limits, to explore this side of herself freely, and sometimes affection.The sub submits willingly. She chooses to give over herself to please him, make him happy... because in the end it makes her happy. To be submissive takes more strength than being a Dom.
Some said they thought it came from a more primal instinctual urge to mark territory. One guy put it really well when he said " We have the face of a woman that we are attracted to or are intimate with and we wish to mark it as our territory with cum, placing it where no one else may have done or would normally do and knowing that she carries our seed in a place where many will look but no one will know." I think the answer was well put! We're sneaky little creatures lol. And that IS quite taboo! The idea that this woman walks into her job everyday, sees friends, family, kids and only a few hours ago had a face full of cum. Hehehe. Like a woman walking around with Ben Wa balls.. how many women are walking around getting that kind of pleasure every day and we don't know about it? It's her dirty little secret! SHhhhh! lol
Some said it was a visual thing. Most men seemed to want to do it MORE if the woman was attractive lol. Many men mentioned that when the woman had a more attractive face, the urge to do it was stronger so I think this would also tie in with territory marking. I get the appeal. Hmmm by this logic I must be pretty fucking hot then!! I've had quite a few requests in the past lol. Woohoo! Wait a minute..So... if he doesn't ask, should I be insulted? Lmao that would be a great scene. Me in bed, just after sex, throwing the guys clothes at him, telling him to get out. The confusion as he tried to figure out WTF?! So he asks, " What happened??" And I yell at him as I push him half way out the door " You think I'm ugly! You didn't ask to cum on my face!"... Priceless lmao.
Interestingly enough, a few men said they either had no interest, didn't understand why other men wanted to or have never asked a woman to do it. Ya, I know some of you are saying Bullshit! Lol.. Maybe some really don't. It's not impossible to believe, we're not all hard wired the same. I do believe some won't admit it to themselves. They might think that by wanting to do this act it might mean they enjoy degrading women when really they love and respect women. It would seem like an oxymoron to this man. How can he degrade and respect her at the same time? By understanding that part of the turn on for her IS the humiliation and she trusts and respects you enough to tell you and want to explore it with you. By giving it to her, you humiliate her on her own terms but you respect her for exploring a taboo with you when others would hide it from you out of fear of being rejected.
That being said... How do you try to help a woman get over it or try to get her to try it. I'm not saying these tips or ideas will work for sure but they might help.
1. Feel out the topic. Guys, don't just straight up ask her if you can cum on her face Lmao.. so many of you are saying WHY NOT?? Because of our natural reaction to be repulsed by it and see it as a humiliating act, many women will automatically say no because they think you WANT to humiliate them. That may not be the case though. For a lot of men seeing their cum on a woman's body is a huge turn on for them. Like you've conquered something.. but you don't know why lol. So talk. Feel her out. If you always cum in a condom, try asking her if you can cum on her. Most women will let you do that. If she's good with that ask if you can try some new places. She'll say "Like what?" Don't just say the face lol. Throw it in with some other areas you actually want to try.. her ass, her breasts, her stomach, the small of her back.
2. Stroke the ego. Many women just want to feel like the most desired woman when she's with you. HELLO! Do any of you pay attention to RomCom (Romantic Comedies) ? Why do you think it's such a thriving industry? They want the guy that's going to be romantic, sacrifice for her ( in the movies it's a job or another woman, or telling off the controlling mother in law lol). You have to make her feel like she's the only person that matters right there at that moment, even one nighters. By doing this, you create security and get rid of some insecurity. If she thinks you're going to think she's a whore ( and I mean a real whore not dirty talk whore) for letting you cum on her face chances are she's going to take a pass.
3. Explain yourself. Before you have this conversation, think. Women like to know the why and many, not all will want to know why you want to cum on her face. Don't say "I don't know!" Lol.. For every guy that has said this I've never let him do it because if you don't know why why should I let you?? If you can't explain the turn on then it's just me with cum on my face literally for no reason lol. So have a good a reason.
4. Be the clean up crew. If you get the chance to do it, guys be a gentleman and go get a nice warm wash cloth to help her wipe it off. Heck, if you ask her to lie back while you gently remove it she's more inclined to do it again because it would be an act of kindness after an act of humiliation. Don't have her wandering around half blind trying to find the washroom but bumping into walls lol. And don't throw the wash cloth at her. That's more degrading! Like telling a dog to eat your shit... ugh!
All in all, If you can get her to believe that the act itself is a turn on and not that you want to treat her like shit, your chances will improve immensely. As for me, did any of this change my mind? Hmmm I can't say I'd do it for sure but I definitely have a better understanding. I think with the right partner one day I will but for now I think I'll keep my face virginity in tact! lol
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